“One does not become enlightened
by imagining figures of light, but by
making the darkness conscious.”
Most solutions for addictions, kinks, toxic relating, and self-sabotage aim to eliminate the patterns while encouraging better choices and healthy alternatives. While these are excellent and valid approaches, there is also another possibility that is rarely spoken of, which is the process of integration.
Our unwanted ways of thinking, feeling, and being, show up as messengers from our unconscious unhealed pain as signposts to look deeper within ourselves and pay much closer attention to what is really happening.
Shadow patterns, especially those which are more protection driven, have perhaps saved you in the past. Maybe they were a necessary adaptation without which you would have struggled to survive the trials of early life. Later, they perhaps helped in your learning and growth, but now…
Although you once found a sense of freedom, self-expression, connection, and happy hedonism in your use of drugs, alcohol, sex, and other things, now, they drain and deplete you.
You may have only known a particular type of relational intimacy, with great sex fuelled by drama, emotional toxicity, jealousy, and trauma bonding. You now know there are other possibilities in intimate relationships that are more healthy and aligned with who and what you want to be, but you feel trapped and addicted to your old relational patterns.
You know that in the past, you had to keep yourself small, hidden, and protected in order to survive. You long to come out and express yourself, to learn, grow and thrive, but your old fears are still in control behind the scenes.
My backstory is similar to the struggles many of us have faced. I spent many years battling my shadow patterns on the path, seeing them as obstacles to my growth rather than gateways to a deeper understanding of myself.
Eventually, I came to see that my patterns, which appeared in the form of addictions, co-dependency, emotional volatility, procrastination, and low self-esteem, were all secondary pain symptoms of a deeper core pain and emotional wounding.
I had to learn how to listen to my shadow parts, dialogue with them, feel them, and receive the messages they were attempting to reach me with. Finally, I saw that the best path was not repression but integration.
What happens in Shadow Work sessions?
Shadow work has no script or formula. The script is hidden within you and is revealed in our speaking. Here are a few things that happen in each individual client process…
Identifying – Identifying shadow patterns and how they hold you back and disconnect you from being who you are more fully.
Shadow Dialogue – Learning the essence of shadow work, and how to converse with your shadows so that you build trust and come to peace with its presence in your life.
Integration – The integrative aspect of shadow work is all about finding alignment with your shadow parts so that there is an agreement to work together towards the same aligned outcome.
Living with Shadow – Working with your shadow in daily life as an ally,
How It Works…
Identifying 1 Session – This first session is about radical honesty. Identifying as many shadow parts as possible and getting honest about how they impact your life and ability to live in alignment with your deepest insights.
Shadow Dialogue 2 Sessions – Learning the essence of shadow work, and how to converse with your shadow so that you build trust and come to peace with its presence in your life.
Integration 2 Sessions – The integrative aspect of shadow work is all about finding alignment with your shadow parts so that there is an agreement to work together towards the same agreed outcome.
Living with Shadow 1 Session – Working with your shadow in daily life as an ally,
6 weeks of therapy and coaching to help with unconscious shadow patterns. Integrating and finding freedom from addictions, toxic relationships and other self-sabotage that seem to be blocking your progress.
6 sessions over 6 weeks
Unlimited access to me via WhatsApp
Your own bespoke toolbox to keep you on track between sessions.
The fee is €900.-
Online Sessions for clients worldwide.